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A person’s sexuality is influenced by several things such as and individual’s attitudes, beliefs and experiences as well as spiritual, cultural, moral and ethical aspects. Sexuality involves more than just sexual contact. All of us are sexual beings since birth.

Sexually active or not? Possess a gender identity? Have a sexual orientation or fantasies? Whether you have feelings of attraction, a personal body image, a need for intimacy and a set of values that guide your choices, choosing to abstain from or engage in sexual activity is a personal choice and both of these are ways of expressing your sexuality. Whatever it may be, you must know what the factors of a healthy sexuality are.

The factors of a healthy sexuality are as follows;

Maintainance of Physical Health

- This entails proper nutrition, regular exercise and constantly seeking medical attention when needed.

Healthy Relationships

- A healthy relationship is based on respect, understanding, mutual consent and open communication.

Safe Sex

- Practice of safe sex involves the use of condoms and other contraceptive methods in order to protect themselves from unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

Adequate Knowlege

- Each individual must know his or her sexual and reproductive rights.

Sexual Self-Awareness

- To build sexual-awareness, one must have an understanding of himself as a sexual being which can include considerations such as gender identity, sexual orientation, body image, personal identity, sexual pleasure and knowing one’s sexual limits.
To top it all off, a healthy sexuality is one that promotes one’s health and well-being and respecting others is an important aspect of a person’s identity as a sexual being regardless of one’s level of sexual activity.

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So many women are doing porn yet why are so many of them hating it? Quite the irony isn’t it? Have you ever wondered why majority of women hate porn? Now is the time to find out the real reasons behind such severe dislike.

To start off, most women do not like pornography because they feel that once they watch porn with their partners, the guys might turn them into objects of release and then just trash them later. Moreover, women also feel that they are inadequate in the bedroom, it’s as if they are really bad at it. It hurts their ego.

Furthermore, the unrealistic and almost impossible moves portrayed in porn movies make women feel that they cannot compete with that. It appears to them as though their partners are seeking someone better than they are in bed. Making them feel insulted and hurt. It makes them feel that their men are going to leave them for someone better.

It turns out that insecurity is the major reason for such acrimony of women for porn. Also women do not like the idea that women are being degraded and demeaned in porn movies. They feel that women should be respected and must be treated with love and care. Women want a healthy sexuality between their partners and watching porn is indeed not inclined to that.

A healthy sexuality involves the conscious, positive expression of our sexual energy in ways that enhance self-esteem, physical health and emotional relationship. It is mutually beneficial and harms no one. Furthermore, to attain a healthy sexuality, these conditions must be met; consent, equality, respect, trust and safety. It was mentioned that respect is one of the conditions in attaining a healthy sexuality, so how can a man show respect to his partner if he enjoys the way women are being treated in porn and would even want to do the same thing to their partners?

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Are you pregnant and wondering if sex can harm your pregnancy? If yes, then you have come to the right page. Sex during pregnancy is a common issue everywhere but still a lot of women don’t get the answers that they need when it comes to this topic. What is the real score about sex during pregnancy? Is it safe or harmful? Can a healthy sexuality still be achieved even when pregnant? Now is the time to provide the answers.

The primary concern of expectant parents is the safety of their unborn child. So they ask; “Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?”. Sex during pregnancy can only be considered safe if one is having a normal pregnancy. What does normal pregnancy mean? A pregnancy is to be considered normal if it has a low-risk for complications such as miscarriage or pre-term labor. If uncertain about your pregnancy condition, ask your doctor, nurse-midwife or a pregnancy health provider in order to determine if you fall under this category. However, sex cannot harm your baby directly since your baby is fully protected by the amniotic sac (a thin-walled bag that holds the fetus and surrounding fluid) and the strong muscles of the uterus. There’s also a thick mucus plug that seals the cervix and helps guard against infection. The penis does not come into contact with the fetus during sex.

It is said that during pregnancy, a woman’s desire for sex fluctuates. Furthermore, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger and achieving a healthy sexuality is becoming a challenge to the couple. Hence, an open line of communication regarding sexual relationship between couples is very important. Also, experimenting with other sex positions can help them find the most comfortable one. Ever felt that you lost complete interest in sex during pregnancy? If so, worry not for a lot of women lose their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy not solely because of of their size but also because they’re preoccupied with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new parent.

Now let us discuss the sexual behaviors which are not safe for pregnant women. Engaging in oral sex? If so, blowing air into the vagina is a no-no because it can cause an air embolism (a blockage of a blood vessel by an air bubble) which can be very fatal to both mother and child. Aside from that, a pregnant woman must never have sex with a partner whose sexual history is unknown or who may have an STD (sexually transmitted disease) such as HIV, herpes, chlamydia or genital warts. If a pregnant woman becomes infected, the disease may be transmitted to her baby, with potentially dangerous consequences.

There are risk factors wherein your doctor, midwife or pregnancy health provider anticipates or detects certain significant complications with your pregnancy, he or she is likely to advise against sexual intercourse. These are; a history or threat of miscarriage, unexplained vaginal bleeding, discharge or cramping, leakage of amniotic fluid (the fluid that surrounds the baby), placenta previa, a condition in which the placenta (the blood-rich structure that nourishes the baby) is situated down so low that it covers the cervix (the opening of the uterus), incompetent cervix, a condition in which the cervix is weakened and dilates (opens) prematurely, raising the risk for miscarriage or premature delivery, multiple fetuses like having twins or triplets, etc.

What are the sex positions ideal for pregnant women? To mention some, they are; woman on top, spooning (man behind woman, rear entry), hands and knees or side lying, knee pulled up. Sounds like good news isn’t it? It is very comforting to know that pregnant women can still have sex as long as they know when it is safe and when it is not. A healthy sexuality is still attainable after all even though your carrying something in your belly. So have no fear, experiment and most of all be safe.

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What comes to your mind when you hear sexual voyeurism? If you haven’t heard of it, sexual voyeurism according to britannica online encyclopedia is a human sexual behavior involving achievement of sexual arousal through viewing the sexual activities of others or through watching others disrobe. In our world today, sexual voyeurism in some extent is widespread and various types of sexual display are a normal part of sexual attraction and mating behavior in most animals and humans yet voyeurism is said to be a deviant behavior when observation ceases to be merely one factor in sexual attraction and becomes the sole or primary source of gratification. The voyeur is usually hidden from view of others. Voyeurism is a form of paraphilia. Because of this behavior, a lot of individuals are having a hard time achieving a healthy sexuality.

What are the causes of sexual voyeurism? There is no scientific consensus concerning the basis for voyeurism. Experts attribute the behavior to an initially random or accidental observation of an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing or engaging in sexual activity. It is said that successive repititions of the act tend to reinforce and perpetuate the voyeuristic behavior.

The symptoms of sexual voyeurism include intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the act of observing an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity in a span of six months. These sexual urges, fantasies or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning.

How to treat sexual voyeurism? In order for treatment to be successful, the voyeur must want to modify existing patterns of behavior. This step is very difficult for most voyeurs to admit and take. Most must be compelled to accept treatment. This may often be the result of a court order. It is said that behavioral therapy is commonly used to treat voyeurism. The voyeur must learn to control the impulse to watch non-consenting victims, and just as importantly to acquire more acceptable means of sexual gratification. Outcomes of behavioral therapy are not known. There are no direct drug treatments for voyeurism. Sexual voyeurism is a criminal act in many jurisdictions. It is usually classified as a misdemeanor. As a result, legal penalties are often minor. The possibility of exposure and embarassment may deter some voyeurs. It is also not easy to prosecute voyeurs as intent to watch is difficult to prove. In their defense statements, they usually claim that the observation was accidental. ( taken from minddisorders.com )

Is there a way to prevent sexual voyeurism? Indeed there is. Most experts agree that providing guidance regarding behavior that is culturally acceptable will prevent the development of a paraphilia such as voyeurism may be accidental observation with subsequent sexual gratification. There is no way to predict when such an event and association will occur. To reduce sexual voyeurism, members of society can do so by dropping blinds or closing window curtains. In a nutshell, reducing opportunities for voyeurism may reduce the practice.

Do you think you have the symptoms of having such disorder? If so, you must make an appointment with your therapist or counselor. A healthy sexuality is more preffered than having such disorders. If you want to achieve a healthy sexuality, then see your therapist now before it’s too late.

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Do you always think about sex? Has sex become a top priority in your life? Spent countless of hours online for erotic and sexual encounters? Do you always masturbate? Always feel the urge to have sex constantly? Then you must be a sex addict.

Sexual addiction is a phenomenon in which individuals report being unable to manage their sexual behavior. It has also been called “hypersexuality”, “sexual dependency”, and “sexual compulsivity”. The existence of the condition is not universally accepted by sexologists and its etiology, nature, and validity have been debated.

Many teenagers have suffered this type of addiction and have a hard time overcoming it. Is sexual addiction healthy? Has a healthy sexuality lost its place in this generation? How would you know if you are a sex addict? Here are the criterias for you to know whether you’re a sex addict or not; (taken from healthymind.com);

~ Recurrent failure to resist sexual impulses.

~ More extensive/longer sexual acting out than intended.

~ Ongoing but unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce or control behavior.

~ Inordinate time spent obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experiences.

~ Feeling preoccupied with sexual behavior and/or preparatory activities.

~ Acting out takes significant time away from obligations: occupational, academic, domestic or social.

~ Continuation behavior despite consequences.

~ Tolerance – more frequency or intensity of behavior is needed over time to obtain the desired result.

~ Deliberately limiting social, occupational or recreational activities to keep time open for acting out.

~ Distress, restlessness or irritability if unable to do behavior (withdrawal).

- A minumum of 3 of the above 10 needed are needed for sex addiction to be considered present. Most sex addicts have 5 signs, while over 50% have 7.

People respond to an addictive substance or behavior because it improves their sense of well-being for a short time. However, over time the addiction helps less and less on each occasion of acting out, and ones overall sense of well-being deteriorates. The forecast for well-being for an addict is always bad. Eventually the peak of a person’s “high” is a worse state of being than when they started the addiction, and the high only staves off the negative effects of withdrawal.

Sadly, studies show that many individuals are becoming sex addicts worldwide and recovery from this addiction is not easy. Has a healthy sexuality lost its value in society? Recovery has its ups and downs, and withdrawal is hard.

Can sexual addiction be treated? According to an article from medicine.net, most sex addicts live in denial of their addiction, and treating an addiction is dependent on the person accepting and admitting that he or she has a problem. In many cases, it takes a significant event—such as the loss of a job, the break-up of a marriage, an arrest, or health crisis—to force the addict to admit to his or her problem. Treatment of sexual addiction focuses on controlling the addictive behavior and helping the person develop a healthy sexuality. Treatment includes education about healthy sexuality, individual counseling, and marital and/or family therapy. Support groups and 12 step recovery programs for people with sexual addictions (like Sex Addicts Anonymous) also are available. In some cases, medications used to treat obssessive-compulsive disorder may be used to curb the compulsive nature of the sex addiction. These medications include Prozac and Anafrani. The bottomline is that sexual addiction is not healthy and can be damaging to one’s life. A healthy sexuality is most preferred rather than sex addiction.

To achieve a healthy sexuality after a sex addiction, here are some suggestions to help you get through it. About.com reveals ten tips and these include; sex providings a feeling of well being, there will be feelings of emotional and physical sensations in you, creativity and passion are rediscovered, nurturing yourself in non-genital ways, suffering is tolerated as a part of life, you start becoming emotionally vulnerable, you start to develop and maintain healthy boundaries with others, sexuality is becoming well-balanced and moderate, you begin to become curious and caring about other people’s reactions to you and you learn to trust others. Follow these tips and surely, a healthy sexuality is just within reach!

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Maintaining a healthy sexuality is quite a hard thing to do these days. With easy access to pornography, the influence of today’s generation, sexual promiscuity and drug use, is keeping a healthy sexuality still achievable?

Gladly, there are ways to stay healthy and still have a spicy sex life (Dr. Laura Berman reveals this to us);

Always use protection. Though you may be in a monogamous and committed relationship, because you can’t protect yourself from a broken heart, but you can protect yourself from infection.

Use protection…during oral sex!! Yes, sweet cakes, you got it right. A lot of people don’t follow this but disease can spread during oral sex as well as intercourse. Use dental dams and condoms and never perform oral sex on someone who has a sore or a wart down there.

Minimize your number of sex partners. How can you attain a healthy sexuality if you have multiple sex partners! You can still enjoy an active sexual lifestyle without having to have sex with every person you come across with, never devalue your own self-worth. Get to know the person very well first and let sex sit on the back burner for a while. Some things are worth waiting for.

Even though what we see around us makes us believe the opposite, never let it poison our minds by doing things we might regret later. Sex is an activity deeply rooted in our emotions and our hearts. Let’s not take sex so lightly – it’s best between two committed and responsible adults. By doing all these, a healthy sexuality is just one step away.

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Recently, I read an article that got me interested. I read it from www.news.com.au and it is all about some of the most embarrassing sex screw-ups. It’s quite funny how sometimes we seem to ignore these embarrassing moments and suddenly it’s being pointed to us one by one. Here’s the scoop to what I have read:

Clumsiness at Sex

People can be so clumsy while doing “the deed”. Things like bumping into each other’s heads, hitting each other with the elbow, or accidentally kicking each other might occur especially if copulating in places with limited space. If this happens to you and your partner, just go on kissing each other and continue your rendezvous, keep the passion going and just go with the flow.

Feel Like Urinating?

A full bladder is indeed no fun especially if the intensity of your sex session is at its peak. However, if you feel like urinating during intercourse go to the bathroom immediately for if you don’t, you may acquire a urinary tract infection. If your lover truly cares for you then he will understand you, just promise him that you resume your activity right after you take a leak.

What Was That Sound?

I’m sure almost everybody has experienced this. During your lovemaking session your partner suddenly “farts”. Yes, you are right. Sweaty bodies that can catch up air as they rub each other, making it sound like somebody just ripped one. However, air getting caught up in the vaginal canal also known as a “queef” also may resemble a farting noise. These sounds aren’t avoidable so if ever you and your partner experience this, just laugh it all off and giggle about it anyway these sounds are actually very funny.

Bad Breath Isn’t Cool

Yikes! This is quite the worst that one may encounter. Kissing someone and eventually having sex with someone whose breath stinks! But don’t worry you can always do things playfully and indirectly, ask your lover if he or she would like a piece of gum, a breath mint or care to join you for toothbrush time hence you avoid hurting his or her feelings.

This Isn’t New For Emergency Departments

Some people love to experiment. They like to spice up their sex life by using sex toys, sex objects and even foreign objects and insert them in certain places. Injuries happen, things get stuck. In times like these, never hesitate to call for medical assistance if necessary. Nothing shocks emergency medical technicians anymore.

Having an active sex life is good and experimenting is also good for it lessens the boredom that the two of you may feel when things get too routinely. It gives you pleasure and provides excitement every time. Always maintain a healthy sexuality though sexually active by using protection, having monthly check ups and doing the deed in safe places. Since a healthy sexuality is vital in your totality as a person.

In this world ravaged with dirty and abusive sex, is there a way to be able to identify the difference between healthy and abusive sex? Though most people as of today have done the act of lovemaking, it is also vital to maintain a healthy sexuality. In order to know which type of sexuality you have, here is the comparison which I have grasped from healthyplace.com.

Now you have read the factors in determining healthy sex from abusive sex, you must think deeply for this is very important. A healthy sexuality is an integral part of our well being. The act of lovemaking must not be something that is lewd, dirty or immoral rather, it must be something thought of as a way to strengthen the bond between you and your partner, something that the two of you can enjoy and not something to be abhorred.

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Healthy sexuality, what is it? We seldom hear it and seldom talk about it. According to healthysex.com, healthy sex involves the conscious, positive expression of our sexual energy in ways that enhance self-esteem, physical health and emotional relationship. This site also mentions that healthy sexuality has conditions that must be met and these are; consent, equality, respect, trust and safety. It also involves acquiring the skills, knowledge and behaviors to maintain good sexual and reproductive health throughout life.

In order to be able to bring healthy sexuality into your own life and relationship, you must learn how to distinguish healthy sexuality from other forms of sexual experience. You may discuss this with your parents, friends or with your counselor. There is a big difference between healthy sex and abusive sex. Healthy sex is an expression of love to somebody and enhances a person’s self esteem. It is responsible and honest and it benefits both persons. On the other hand, abusive sex is more of a condition for love, it makes one feel shameful, and it is irresponsible, is deceitful and benefits only one person.

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Healthy sexuality is being able to let one enjoy and control his/her sexual behavior without any feelings of guilt, fear or shame. How can one be able to maintain a healthy sexuality? There actually several ways. One of these is by educating oneself by asking questions and making informed decisions. Other ways are; learning to protect oneself against from STDs by practicing safe sex, seeking help if being forced into sexual activity, have regular check-ups, get tested to find out if infected with STDs and stay current with new knowledge and research.

A healthy sexuality is a basic human right. Our sexuality is part of our personality. It includes thoughts, feelings, behaviors, attitudes, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, body image and relationships. We must never take it for granted for it is vital in a person’s overall health and well being.

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Is there something missing in your sex life? How do you know if you have a healthy sexuality or an unhealthy one? A healthy sex life is part of a healthy sexuality. The question is, do you know what a healthy sexuality is? There are many factors affecting a healthy sexual lifestyle.

In order to achieve a healthy sex life one must know the signs first. Recently, I have read an article from socyberty.com which says that there are five signs in determining a healthy sex life. The signs are as follows. Your relationship is healthy. There must always be an open line of communication between couples for both to be able to know what each partner expects from the other. Yet, their expectations must be realistic and not over demanding.

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Another sign of a couple that has a healthy sex life is that they experiment in the bedroom. It is not a waste of time to try a different sex position every now and then for this can help you get to know your partner better and make your sex life more exciting. In addition to that, another sign that a couple has a healthy sexuality is that if sex is freely given. Most couples are both stressed from their respective jobs and find it so hard to enjoy sex. They think that making love to their partner is more an obligation rather than a source of pleasure and enjoyment. This must not be the case. If each partner will make love on their own free will, then they can achieve maximum pleasure.

Sex must be a regular part of the relationship. Never let your responsibilities towards your family or towards your work become the hindrance of having sex with your partner. A happy sex life requires sex with your partner regularly. Lastly, sex must be more than just sex. Relive those days when you first fell in love with your partner. Do some romantic stuff for your partner and make him/her not lose his/her interest in you. Make him/her crave for you more.

To achieve a healthy sexuality, one must give out a lot of effort. Start with your diet; eat foods which are low in carbohydrates but high in fiber. Try eating foods which can enhance one’s sexual desire like oysters and clams. Chocolates can also do the trick. Exercise often to keep the energy coming. Aromatherapy is also helpful in heating up your sex life. Watson suggests scenting the airs with a few drops jasmine, sandalwood, or ylang ylang essential oil are very effective. Scented massage oils can also help opening up sexual chakras. Trying tantric yoga exercises can teach one to move energy through chakras.